Doing it for me. 1 day till D Day
When I decided to blog about this, I knew I would get people telling me not to do it, I already got that when discussing it in face to face conversations but of course it’s much easier to speak your piece when you are hiding behind an anonymous comment form. What I wasn’t prepared for was the positive feedback I got from women everywhere saying it was “The best money I ever spent” “better than any handbag or pair of shoes” “the best thing I did for myself” and wishing me luck. Even the advice I’ve been getting from women who have been there is amazing- one girl told me while massaging to push up and in for a minute, then down and out for a minute on each side at least once a day to help them move more naturally. – great advice, thank you! A friend told me to loosely tie a bathrobe tie around my arms between the elbow and armpit to make me aware of my movements while I sleep, as trauma during sleep can cause excess inflammation. – I wouldn’t have thought of that, thank you! Or to prevent nausea from the anesthesia, “ask your doctor to prescribe you a scopolamine patch. This is intended for motion sickness but will stop any and all nausea.” (I will be doing that as I get very nauseous from anesthetic). But of course I’ve gotten the comments and emails telling me “I’m fashion and fashion needs little boobs” “Fake boobs are for butterfaces” outright, “DON”T DO IT” or:
“I just hope that you’ve considered that doing so will make you just the same as so many other women down there, actresses, models, etc. In becoming the same, you may become unremarkable. Consider the story of Jennifer Grey. She had a distinguished nose, that made her stand out and was climbing the ladder of success when she got a nose job. It was a fine nose job, no surgical horror stories, but her work dropped off because she now looked average pretty.”
Guess what, I don’t think my breast size has anything to do with my remarkableness, And if you judge someones worth or “remarkableness” based on the size of their chest, that’s your own issue, and that sucks! I am someone who follows her heart, stays true to herself, is kind, and brave and I think that’s pretty remarkable. And guess what else??? Jennifer Grey needed a nose job!! If I were her I would’ve gotten one too!! Could Jennifer foresee that her career would tank? Nope, but she got that nose job to make herself happy, not to preserve a hypothetical career.. And on top of that- Jennifer’s nose was her marketability, she was the girl with the nose, without it, she wasn’t only average pretty, she was unrecognizable! I don’t think people see me as the girl with the real boobs, and in getting fake ones I’ll suddenly lose my niche and become invisible, I think it’s a huge upgrade and where I wouldn’t feel comfortable posing for Maxim before, hey if they wanted to feature me as the “Hot blogger you’ve never heard of” in 6 months, (that would be so sick!) I will have an entirely new outlook on it, the bottom line, is that if you feel something is holding you back, change it. If you have an accent that is costing you the life you want (Eliza Doolittle) or a flat chest when you want to dress sexy, or a huge nose when you just want to feel normal, do it for you. Don’t be afraid of what others think, it’s their own insecurities that cause them to judge those who are not afraid to make changes for themselves.
I know two girls specifically- true story- who I talked to LAST SUMMER about getting my boobs done, they both told me not to do it, and they BOTH have new boobs this year. I’m not going to ‘out’ them, I actually love both of these girls, and I used to do the same thing when someone told me they were getting theirs done, but I was lying. I didn’t think I could afford it, and I was scared, and I knew I’d feel even more inadequate if another girl surrounding me got perfect c-cups.. but you just have to be true to yourself, and if you’re the one secretly wishing you had them while deterring girls from getting them, don’t let society or your family tell you what you want, own it. If you want bog boobs, FUCK EVERYONE ELSE.
Girls are bitches. I have an amazing core group of girls who have all been super supportive, and I am blessed for them. But I know that every time I have long pretty hair, or a nice apartment, or new shoes, there are those girls who say “you should cut your hair” “you should move” “I saw some just like those in a Payless commercial” Or some snide jealous comment. You don’t have to confront them, I feel badly for them, I just like to be aware of what they’re doing so I don’t take it to heart. Unless someone is supporting you, fuck them. I am doing this for me.
So wish me luck, or fuck off.. jk.. but seriously.
Boobs are irrelevant, I want to know what you are wearing for Labor Day!
The best of luck to you tomorrow!
Well you know im not a fan because i already think your perfect but I love you and support you and in the end I just want you to be happy. So good luck tomorrow and I cant wait to hear how it went :-)
Hi Kier- I totally respect your decision and I think you should absolutely do what you believe is right for you. I’ve agreed with almost everything you’ve said in your prior posts on the subject, until this one. In this post you’re starting to sound defensive and irritated, which is understandable given the barrage of unsolicited advice you’re probably getting, but being nasty doesn’t have to be part of that. It’s important that you tread carefully with your words when it comes to what other people “need.” Jennifer Grey didn’t “need” a nose job. Sure, she thought she would prefer her new look post-surgery, but has actually been very public about regretting it in the end. There are all kinds of beauty in this world, and having a small nose, big boobs, long hair, etc. aren’t the sole determinants. As a blogger with a diverse following, do what’s right for you- but celebrate other people’s beauty too. Telling your readers that someone “needs” a nose job makes you sound a bit shallow, and I think you’re better than that.
I appreciate you reading, I’m sorry if I offended you, whats funny is that whenever people say to me “But, you don’t need breast implants” I always respond with “Nobody needs plastic surgery…” I was just caught up in the moment, thankfully I have amazing readers like you who love me despite my flaws.
Xx Thanks for your thoughts
Boobs are irrelevant…I want to know what you are wearing for Labor Day!
Wishing you the best of luck tomorrow!
:) Jennifer, I don’t know yet!! Will have to find a top that fits first!!! HAHA
Xx Thanks for making me laugh!
Good luck, I Hope it goes well!
Always appreciate your support! Things went great today.
You’re the best Kelly,
I recently found your blog and it has become one of my favorites! (And this is the first time, by the way, I’ve ever left a comment on any blog…) But, I just want to tell you, all of your posts on this surgery have helped me so much be able to understand the procedure better as I have been looking into it too. I agree that it is definitely a personal decision and something you have to do for yourself and not anyone else. You are a very big inspiration! Thank you for all the posts about this!
Good luck tomorrow and I hope you will have a speedy recovery!
Thank you so much for reading and allowing me to be your first comment, you don’t know how much it means to me. The reason I chose to blog this experience was for women like you. Please feel free to ask any questions, anonymous is fine. :)
Ahhh! Kier! Good luck, I am positive they will look fabulous! I’ve always thought about getting implants at some point in my life and your blog about it really helps! So excited for you, have a great recovery, hopefully everything goes smooth and you get what you want!
Thank you so much! Things are going well so far!!
I hope you have a quick recovery, and that the surgery went well!
Good for you for doing what YOU want and desire :)
Thanks Jaylynn! So far so good, I couldn’t be happier. :)
So I’m wondering how much those babies cost you?! Glad your happy, I’ve thought about it as a mommy makeover!! :) hehe
Beverly Hills Plastic Surgery group costs $8500 and Care Credit financing is available.
I think your truly amazing. Thank you for being real.